Should I Fight To Stay or Just Let her Walk?-The cross road decision.

Posted: September 1, 2013 in Uncategorized

Today I was sitting thinking about how far I’ve come and Tђέ direction in which I am trying to go, when a painful situation crossed my mind. I have been faced with a major situation in which I have been forced to make a life changing decision. One that at one point in our lives, we all are forced to make. Do you stay, hold on, and continue to fight for Tђέ one you love or let it all go? A major crossroad decision.

Over Tђέ years, I’ve come across people I’ve loved very much. And I’ve come to understand that sometimes love isn’t enough to tackle all Tђέ obstacles in life, at Tђέ end, you will always have to deal with Tђέ heartbreak of knowing that that person you loved is leaving and you’re going to be left alone, to try your very hardest to fall out of love.

Sometimes we have to let go of somethings that once meant Tђέ world to us. Not because we want to, but because we have to. Tђέ truth remains, life will keep going with or without them.

    ………If you’re Tђέ only one fighting to keep a relationship together, get out now……….
    ………If They Let You Walk Away, They Never Loved You……….
    ………Bla bla bla bla bla bla……bla!!!!!

I’m pretty sure we all know this above sayings, and countless others. I’ve heard a lot of people groan and moan about letting them walk right out or fighting on to get them to stay.
I realised one ugly truth, Fighting for them will only drive them farther away. Letting them walk away will only point in one direction which is that you just didn’t care about them anyway, It will go ahead to prove how little in preference they meant to you.

When you are at Tђέ lowest point of Tђέ relationship, at Tђέ end of Tђέ relationship, or separated from Tђέ relationship Tђέ question most people are forced to deal with is “Do you fight for it or let it go?” This is very tough, especially for us males (although most choose not to show it).

Several of us have allowed Tђέ movie industry create and exaggerated idea of falling in love, staying in love and walking out of love, which in reality is so different from Tђέ movies. Real life involves real emotions, real sacrifices, real hurt, real pain, real people, and real consequences. There is no director yelling cut at Tђέ end of Tђέ scene. In Tђέ end, it’s a barrel of confused emotions, loose ends, and a great deal of other unexplained feelings that linger and if not handled Tђέ right way can get ugly very fast.
This brings me to Tђέ big question. Like i said earlier, its a question we all get to answer at a certain time in our life.

    Should we fight for it or let it go?”

I believe like me, there are thousands out there confronted with this choices everyday. I know there are a lot out here too who have sailed through this and made Tђέ right decision or some who made Tђέ wrong one and have realised they needed to have made a better choice. So please share your experiences, views or comment with me. All views, opinions, and comments will be respected.

I decided to write on this topic because I love to see and hear other perspectives. I appreciate you taking your time to actually read my thoughts, opinions, and perspectives.

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  1. funkyluv says:

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  2. darkieut says:

    Its true the movies have led most of us to think a certain way about love which is different in reality. It is really a hard choice to make letting go, sometimes we fight so hard for our relationships, and in the end its worth it other times we realize that no maTter how much we fight that relationship is already over. I really don’t know what the right thing to do is. I think the situation at that point in the relationship will help you to decide if fighting or letting go is the right and healthy thing for you to do at that point

    • johneshiet says:

      Well said dear, cos i too dnt knw wat de right thing is. Most pple wud always say fight on, yet u knw deep down its lost. Others wud say walk, yet u knw deep down u wnt her back n all it’l take is jst few mins of sorting out differences.

  3. eirene says:

    First of all, we have to be cleared that there is no water- tight answer to the question. Every decision will depend on the circumstances of each case. However, it is necessary that one shows concern, not neglecting it totally. It is necessary to try winning the person once again. Let it be known and no pretence; and if the person in question is still harden, its advisable to pull out a little, giving him/her time to reflect . There’s a saying that goes thus:”let it go. If it was truly yours, it’ll come back to you”. This should be applied after necessary steps have been made. In totality, the determining factor will always be the surrounding circumstances.

    • johneshiet says:

      That really cool, buh u knw how i choose to frame that saying? “let it go. If it was truly yours, it’ll come back to you, if it doesn’t pursue it and kill it”

      • tps247blog says:

        Well, everyone has said what I believe is pretty cool, to me I mean. But, looking at the far sides…
        I think the most suitable action for such situations would be…to take responsibility.
        It’s important to note that communication is paramount in any relationship whatsoever. If you can take a bit of your time to study and observe vividly your partner and at the same time, make up your mind and sum up courage to relate your intensions, I believe it will go a long way to putting you on point whenever you arrive at the cross roads.
        Thank you.

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